Introducing My Date to My Medical Issue by Anonymous
I had finally met someone - possibly The One. But I was faced with the unpleasant responsibility of having to reveal to him my medical issue and I knew this could make or break our relationship.The time was right: women's intuition, the backing of my Rav and my frum therapist confirmed that for me. I had emunah that this would work out for the best. I repeated to myself the words of Queen Esther, as she prepared to confront King Achashveirosh, "Ka'asher Avaditi Avaditi." I told myself, if he were not able to handle it, I wouldn't want him anyway. But if he can handle it, if he rises to the challenge, this will bring us closer.
I was very upfront and honest: I laid all the cards on the table. I told him all about my condition and it's ramifications for marriage and children. And he responded with a strong verbal commitment to be there for me no matter what.
His Rav advised that we go to my doctor together and that he should speak to the doctor alone. I davened so fervently that this would work out. When he walked out of the doctor's office after a brief meeting, he suggested we go out to dinner. That night... he proposed!
I'm so thankful to Hashem for a chosson who really sees the whole picture and evaluated me in my entirety before making a decision. His Yiras Shamayim, courage and strength of character are a daily inspiration to me.
I met Shimon on Frumster, and believe it or not, I took the first step and contacted him. The fact that he was not intimidated by my lead demonstrated his confidence and self-esteem. It was only due to the securities and controls on the website that I was comfortable initiating contact. As a woman, I felt greatly empowered as the initiator, but as a frum woman, it was equally important for me to maintain the level of tznius that I wanted my future relationship to uphold. Frumster made it possible for me to achieve both. That Shimon was receptive was the first indication that he would warmly receive the difficult news and problems I needed to share- now and in the future.
Chaya and Shimon* were married during 5764/2004. They are just one of over 135 couples who have become married through Frumster's Orthodox managed online dating & marriage service.
*Names changed to protect privacy With over 270 members matched, and 14,000 members, Frumster empowers success. Members conduct their own searches and can contact a potential match through the private Frumster network or through the Frumster Matchmaker. Our secure and comfortable dating environment draws singles of all ages and outlooks who are sincerely searching for a marriage partner.
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