TOP 10 THINGS a guy should NOT say on the phone with a potential first date by Michele Herenstein
#10 Don't always bring the conversation back to you. If you ask us a question, at least pretend to be interested in our answer.#9 Let's not forage into Jewish geography. We don't need to know who you know, from where you know them, and why. We just want to get to know YOU.
#8 Don't ask us how old we are. If it’s so important to find this out, please do so before the conversation. Some women are not comfortable divulging their ages.
#7 Don't tell us what a great catch you are. Show it by being a good listener, communicator, and by being a mensch on the phone.
#6 Don't read off the checklist that your Rabbi gave you. Relax and converse. The best way to get to know someone is to chat and see if there's an ease of conversation. The place to find out facts is on the date.
#5 Don't begin the conversation by saying, "I will have to go soon because my favorite TV show is starting." You're better off fudging the truth and saying that you have to go meet your chavruta. We'll have more respect for you. Or News Flash: call when you actually have a few minutes to chat!
#4 Don't ask if our mothers, sisters, sisters-in-law, and friends cover their hair and only wear skirts. WE are not THEM. What we do religiously is done independent of our family and friends. Remember, please focus on us.
#3 Sexual innuendoes are not appropriate for a first phone call. Period!
#2 Do not discuss your ex-girlfriends. Your experiences are probably fascinating, but we really could do without hearing about them. We don't want to become your next "ex-girlfriend" story!
#1 Do NOT ask us why we aren't married yet! That is a RUDE and impertinent question. And hey, aren't you calling us because you aren't married either? We sure hope that's the case.
Michele Herenstein is a freelance journalist working in NY:
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